About Steve

Steve (a.k.a. Duncan North) is a teacher, writer and relationship counselor. Steve studied philosophy and mathematics at St. John’s College in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

In 2000, Sony Pictures Classics released The Tao of Steve, a film inspired by his life and philosophy. His work includes (and is entirely limited to) a romantic advice column (The Tao of Love), some magazine articles, two screenplays (The Tao of Steve, Hell Can Wait) and numerous apology notes. He also recently embarked on writing his first novel ‘The Tao of Cake’, coming soon.

Do you have burning philosophical questions about love and relationships? Ask Steve: thetaooflove@gmail.com.

Who is Steve? you ask.
“Steve is the prototypical cool American male: Steve McGarrett, Steve Austin, and the ultimate Steve, Steve McQueen.” Furthermore, “Steve isn’t a name, it’s a state of mind. James Bond is a Steve. Spiderman is a Steve. Grouch is a Steve.”

Some reviews from people who have read The Tao of Love:
“Brilliant is one of those words people use so often that it has lost it’s meaning, so I won’t.”
– K. G. Pitch
“You couldn’t find better relationship advice in a shopping mall or a high school cafeteria.”
– Veronica Monroe
“Steve is a great speller.  I enjoy good spelling.”
– Carl Spackler
“If I didn’t have any friends or family, my own therapist, or a dog – I would definitely ask Steve for advice.”
– Shirley McTockin
“Your column changed my life.  In the past, I pursued women without thinking about what I said or what I did.  Now, I am paralyzed by self-analysis and doubt.  You’re a bastard.”
– Everett Mann



Tao of Steve philosophy embodies three parts:
1. Eliminate desire and you’ll become desirable.
2. Excel in her presence, prove yourself worthy.
3. Retreat and she’ll pursue you.

The Tao of Love, however, is not so simple grasshopper. Read on.


2 responses to “About Steve

  1. Thank you for letting me know about your Tao of Love site. I would submit a question but that would be awkward…so I will enjoy other’s letters instead.

    Love to you,

  2. I savor, lead to I discovered exactly what I used to be having a look for. You have ended my 4 day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a great day. Bye

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