A little over a year ago, I met a guy on a chat line and we started talking a lot, like everyday. We got along great and had a lot in common. We had sent pictures to one another via e-mail, so we kind of knew what we looked like. We talked to each other for months. We wanted to meet, but I kept putting it off, because I guess I’m insecure and was scared he wouldn’t like me. Not that I should be, because I believe (and am told a lot) that I am a intelligent, beautiful woman. I don’t know – just scared I guess. Anyway, I lost my chance when I no longer had access to my computer and got out of touch with him.
Okay, so now I started a new job about 3 months ago and found out that one of my co-workers is closely related to him and I was so excited that I might get to finally meet him. So, I told her to tell him I said “hi.” I waited two weeks for her to tell me what he said or what his response was, but she never said anything and I didn’t want to seem too desperate by asking. Then, one morning, she says that it was too bad that I was late one morning to work because he was here at work to see his cousin and to meet me. I was shocked, but acted normal by saying, “oh, too bad – I could have finally met him.” Then, I told her to tell him to call me. I didn’t give her a personal number, but he should know the number to where we work, because she works with me and he could ask her for it, right? So now it’s been two weeks and no phone call or visit. Is he not interested or what? What can I do to find out for sure what he wants to do with our friendship, without looking like I’m desperate or a stalker? I thought he would be so excited to find me again. I really liked him even to the point of falling in love even though we never met. I thought he felt the same, because of conversations that we had and him sometimes referring to the future in a positive way.
Please tell me what I should do!
I don’t know why, but I had to take an aspirin after reading your letter. It was like a foreign film, only without the pictures (which isn’t a good thing). As for your internet dude, forget him. I don’t think he’s interested. Either that, or he’s in a coma. Of course, people hate to let go of things – especially potential romantic partners. So, I’ve thought of a few things you might do.
1- Become friends with your co-worker. Slowly insinuate yourself into her life. Eventually, you’ll be invited to a party that your internet dude will also attend. Then, walk over to him at the party (a real sexy walk) and tell him that you really enjoyed chatting with him and that you would like to chat some more and possibly have sex.
2- Look for his address in the phone book. Then, hang around outside his house. Follow him around. Find out if he’s dating someone else. If he is, you can finally let go of him. Or, you could kill his pet rabbit.
3- Place a small, electronic recording device in your co-worker’s purse. When she comes into work every day, take the recording device out of her purse and listen to it in the bathroom. Before the end of the day, put the recording device back in her purse. One day, she might have a conversation about you with Mr. Internet (while carrying her purse). Then, you can hear what he thinks about you.
4- If he has a therapist, you could break into the therapist’s office, steal his file, and see if he talked about you (Richard Nixon tried that one).
5- Pass him a note in class. Draw two boxes on the note. Write “check this box if you like me” next to one of the boxes. Write “check this box if you don’t” next to the other box.
6- Grow up, call him, and ask him how he feels.